These days the rain god is playing such a cruel game of waiting with us
mortals here in Pune. First he sends in those big black dark clouds
which makes you excited about the possibility of getting drenched. But
then clouds just stay there without doing anything. Makes you feel like a
lover who had been made to fill with the excitement of spending the
night with his girlfriend only to realize all medical shops are closed
that day.
Talking about lovers suddenly brings a laugh on my face. I had the fortune of meeting with many people, girls and guys, single and couples and each one of them had their own set of plights. This always makes me realize girls and guys are so different when it comes to handling each other.
Situation 1: A girl asks a guy how I am looking in a new dress. Am I looking perfect? The guy without thinking blurts out yes baby you look so perfect in this dress. Fits you like a dream. The girl asks am I looking fat. The guy says not at all love. The girl says but I think am looking fat. The guy still in the no brainier mode says yeah I guess you are looking a little fat. The girl replies you are so insensitive.
Here what the girl needs to understand is we guys follow a straight curve. When we mean you are looking good you are. It’s that simple. The moment you throw in an extra variable, an extra question mark we tend to get confuse. Then we tell you the same thing you want us to say to you.
The guys need to understand that in no circumstance should you ever say your girl is looking fat even if she is on the verge of busting out of the tiny dress she is wearing. Saves a lot of troubles..:D You must understand a girl will pressurize you to speak out the very thing she doesn't want to hear in the first place. You must not succumb under pressure.
Situation 2: A girl asks a guy after an intense round of love making what am I to you. The guy replies you mean everything to me. The girl replies can you see a future with me. The guy replies lets enjoy the present. The girl's mood goes from oh babe to shoo off faster than split of a second.
After an intense round of love making, girls should understand the guy is all tired and wants his chance at taking breath. At most he can handle normal conversation about the lovemaking instead of the heavy discussion of future, relationship and all.
The guy should understand girls love to talk after love making. It’s in their genes, you can't take that away. And they try to bring up those heavy discussion about future and relationship right after the lovemaking because they feel we are the most vulnerable at that time. Try to spend at least 10 mins in talking even if don't feel like.
Situation 3: The girl asks a guy after 3-4 months of staying together when are we getting married. The guys goes blank. The girl goes into sulk mode.
Girls should understand every guy goes numb upon hearing the word marriage. It’s not like we are insensitive or we don't want to be with you. But then somehow the word marriage makes our world go topsy turvy. It’s like our whole notion about freedom comes crashing down. You should proceed with let’s take our relationship to next level of love. Let’s get engaged or something instead of straightaway come to the word marriage.
Guys should understand girls want commitment after being with you even for a week. It’s in their nature, you can't help it. They feel like having a sense of security with you which they give the name of commitment. You may try to run hard away from it but eventually you will have to give in to the word commitment. And about marriage, you can stall it but can't avoid it. Eventually you are going to die..:P
Situation 4: The girl says to a guy, I feel like meeting you tonight, we will just talk and spend some time. The guy gives some excuse of being late in office. Next time the girl says i feel like making love to you tonight. The guy makes it even if it was raining hell or cats and dogs. The girl goes bonkers.
Guys should realize there are times when a girl feels like just talking to you or say maybe watching a movie together cuddling up. Not every time it’s going to be bang bang kiss me mam. Even though we guys are born with high levels of testosterone all the time, but sometimes we need to cool off.
Girl should realize guys are just not made for talking. Yeah they will do the small talks and all but ultimately their hormones kicks in. It’s the way they are made..:P
There are many more instance I could give about how different girls and guys are from each other. But then the above situations are very frequent.
Girls feel guys are very insensitive. Guys feel girls are very nagging. Girls feel guys are selfish. Guys feel girls are dominant. All these things together makes a girl and a guy unique. If this was not so guys would had been dating guys and girl would have better dated girls.
So all the guys and girls who don't like each others habits, fighting about rights,expectations..give it a break and learn to accept each other as the way they are. After all am sure that there are more things to love about each other than to fight for..:D
So keep on loving god’s most amazing creations. Guys and Girls..!!
Talking about lovers suddenly brings a laugh on my face. I had the fortune of meeting with many people, girls and guys, single and couples and each one of them had their own set of plights. This always makes me realize girls and guys are so different when it comes to handling each other.
Situation 1: A girl asks a guy how I am looking in a new dress. Am I looking perfect? The guy without thinking blurts out yes baby you look so perfect in this dress. Fits you like a dream. The girl asks am I looking fat. The guy says not at all love. The girl says but I think am looking fat. The guy still in the no brainier mode says yeah I guess you are looking a little fat. The girl replies you are so insensitive.
Here what the girl needs to understand is we guys follow a straight curve. When we mean you are looking good you are. It’s that simple. The moment you throw in an extra variable, an extra question mark we tend to get confuse. Then we tell you the same thing you want us to say to you.
The guys need to understand that in no circumstance should you ever say your girl is looking fat even if she is on the verge of busting out of the tiny dress she is wearing. Saves a lot of troubles..:D You must understand a girl will pressurize you to speak out the very thing she doesn't want to hear in the first place. You must not succumb under pressure.
Situation 2: A girl asks a guy after an intense round of love making what am I to you. The guy replies you mean everything to me. The girl replies can you see a future with me. The guy replies lets enjoy the present. The girl's mood goes from oh babe to shoo off faster than split of a second.
After an intense round of love making, girls should understand the guy is all tired and wants his chance at taking breath. At most he can handle normal conversation about the lovemaking instead of the heavy discussion of future, relationship and all.
The guy should understand girls love to talk after love making. It’s in their genes, you can't take that away. And they try to bring up those heavy discussion about future and relationship right after the lovemaking because they feel we are the most vulnerable at that time. Try to spend at least 10 mins in talking even if don't feel like.
Situation 3: The girl asks a guy after 3-4 months of staying together when are we getting married. The guys goes blank. The girl goes into sulk mode.
Girls should understand every guy goes numb upon hearing the word marriage. It’s not like we are insensitive or we don't want to be with you. But then somehow the word marriage makes our world go topsy turvy. It’s like our whole notion about freedom comes crashing down. You should proceed with let’s take our relationship to next level of love. Let’s get engaged or something instead of straightaway come to the word marriage.
Guys should understand girls want commitment after being with you even for a week. It’s in their nature, you can't help it. They feel like having a sense of security with you which they give the name of commitment. You may try to run hard away from it but eventually you will have to give in to the word commitment. And about marriage, you can stall it but can't avoid it. Eventually you are going to die..:P
Situation 4: The girl says to a guy, I feel like meeting you tonight, we will just talk and spend some time. The guy gives some excuse of being late in office. Next time the girl says i feel like making love to you tonight. The guy makes it even if it was raining hell or cats and dogs. The girl goes bonkers.
Guys should realize there are times when a girl feels like just talking to you or say maybe watching a movie together cuddling up. Not every time it’s going to be bang bang kiss me mam. Even though we guys are born with high levels of testosterone all the time, but sometimes we need to cool off.
Girl should realize guys are just not made for talking. Yeah they will do the small talks and all but ultimately their hormones kicks in. It’s the way they are made..:P
There are many more instance I could give about how different girls and guys are from each other. But then the above situations are very frequent.
Girls feel guys are very insensitive. Guys feel girls are very nagging. Girls feel guys are selfish. Guys feel girls are dominant. All these things together makes a girl and a guy unique. If this was not so guys would had been dating guys and girl would have better dated girls.
So all the guys and girls who don't like each others habits, fighting about rights,expectations..give it a break and learn to accept each other as the way they are. After all am sure that there are more things to love about each other than to fight for..:D
So keep on loving god’s most amazing creations. Guys and Girls..!!
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